Do you love yourself? Be honest now…
The reason why I posed this question is because it’s becoming more and more apparent to me that though many people would answer with a quick “yes”,their daily thoughts and actions do not align with their supposed self-love.
I have increasingly noticed just how many people are dissatisfied with who they are – whether it is their physical attributes, personal life, professional achievements and so forth. The feeling of not enough, not worthy and being a downright failure seem to be plaguing so many. If this resonates with you, please note that this blog post is not intended to judge or offend you. On the contrary, I hope to help you to change negative beliefs you have about about yourself and to encourage you to start loving yourself.
Truth is, we are all worthy and enough, just as we are. However, I do recognize that it can be extremely difficult to believe that we are worthy when since we were kids we have been told otherwise by our loved ones, our bosses, colleagues, clients or even strangers.
That said, that is precisely why it’s crucial for us to become our very own best friend and cheerleader. With so many vying against us, we’ve got enough on our plate that we need all the support and love we can get. Contrary to popular beliefs which emphasize romantic love as the supreme type of love, I believe that the very best love is in-fact the love one have for oneself. Why? you asked? Well, this oh so wise quote from one of my role models, Ms. Dianne Von Furstenberg state it best:
“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens.. you will ALWAYS be with yourself.”
– Dianne Von Furstenberg
This self-love that I am referring to is not arrogance, which I believe is merely a mask for insecurities. The type of self love that I’m talking is being kind and treating yourself as you would to your loved ones. This includes everything from keeping promises to ourselves to prioritizing our own needs. When we give love and compassion we usually extend to our loved ones to ourselves, we acknowledge to ourselves and others that we are worthy, flaws and all.
Another important reason as to why it’s crucial for us to give love to ourselves is that when we love ourselves, we will be less likely to seek love elsewhere. We will no longer desperately look to other people for love and acceptance, which is a dangerous thing to do. What I mean by this is that when you look to other people to make you feel worthy of love and acceptance, you may set yourself up for negative circumstances such as fearing to leave a destructive relationship because you believe that he/ she is the only person that could give you love. You diminish your power over your life because you believe that he/she is the best partner that you can get. By seeking love and acceptance outside of yourself, you are giving away your power and control of your life to someone else.
You have been blessed with the gift of life and your life is 100% yours. Remember that the way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You have the power to make it to be the ideal life that you’ve always imagined of living. It all can be a reality as long as you make the commitment to be your very own best friend, give your very best effort and cheer yourself on as you make the journey to your best life, especially when the going gets tough.
With anything worth doing, sometimes it will be a far cry from a walk in the park to ignore the negative chatter you have ingrained in your mind about yourself and/or the unpleasant things others may say.
That said, whenever we are confronted with this situation, know that we always have the option to muster up courage and choose to love ourselves instead. It’s definitely not going to be easy, but I promise that it will be worth it.