Do you love yourself? Be honest now…
The reason why I posed this question is that it’s becoming more and more apparent to me that though many people would answer with a quick “yes”, their daily thoughts and actions don’t align with their supposed self-love.
I have increasingly noticed just how many people are dissatisfied with who they are – whether it is their physical attributes, personal life, professional achievements, and so forth.
The feeling of not enough, not being worthy, and being a downright failure seems to be plaguing so many. If this resonates with you, please know that this post is not intended to judge or offend you.
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On the contrary, I hope to help you to change the negative beliefs you have about yourself and to encourage you to start loving yourself.
Truth is, we are all worthy and enough, just as we are.
However, I do recognize that it can be extremely difficult to believe that we are worthy when we’ve been told otherwise by our loved ones, our bosses, colleagues, clients, or even strangers.
That said, that is precisely why it’s crucial for us to become our very own best friends and cheerleader. With so many vying against us, we’ve got enough on our plate that we need all the support and love we can get.
Contrary to popular beliefs which emphasize romantic love as the supreme type of love, I believe that the very best love is in fact the love one has for oneself.
Why you asked? Well, this oh so wise quote from one of my role models states it best:
“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens.. you will ALWAYS be with yourself.”
– Diane Von Furstenberg
This self-love that I am referring to is not arrogance, which I believe is merely a mask for insecurities. The type of self-love that I’m talking about is being kind and treating yourself as you would to your loved ones.
This includes everything from keeping promises to ourselves to prioritizing our own needs.
When we give love and compassion we usually extend to our loved ones to ourselves, we acknowledge to ourselves and others that we are worthy, flaws and all.
Another important reason why it’s crucial for us to give love to ourselves is that when we love ourselves, we will be less likely to seek love elsewhere.
We’ll no longer desperately look to other people for love and acceptance, which is a dangerous thing to do.
What I mean by this is that when you look to other people to make you feel worthy of love and acceptance, you may set yourself up for negative circumstances such as fearing leaving a destructive relationship because you believe that they are the only person that could give you love.
You diminish your power over your own life because you believe that they are the best partner that you can get. By seeking love and acceptance outside of yourself, you’re giving away your power and control of your life to someone else.
You have been blessed with the gift of life and your life is 100% yours. Remember that the way you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.
You have the power to make it to be the ideal life that you’ve always imagined living. It all can be a reality as long as you make the commitment to be your very own best friend.
Give your very best effort and cheer yourself on as you make the journey to your best life, especially when the going gets tough.
With anything worth doing, sometimes it will be a far cry from a walk in the park to shrug off the negative chatter you have ingrained in your mind about yourself and/or the unpleasant things others may say.
That said, whenever we are confronted with this situation, know that we always have the option to muster up the courage and choose to love ourselves instead. It’s definitely not going to be easy, but I promise that it will be worth it…